"Imagine that every person you meet has an invisible cup of hot drinking chocolate. Every time you do something good for someone: help, support, praise – you pour them some chocolate. Every time you want something from someone – you reach out with a spoon to take a bit of that chocolate."

This sentence encouraged me to read the wonderful book by Miłosz Brzeziński titled "Strokeology. How to Positively Influence Others and Increase Your Satisfaction. Actual Rules of Motivating and Understanding Motivation “. Perhaps it spoke to me so strongly because I love chocolate, both solid and liquid, but chocolate is just a metaphor.
The book's author develops this metaphor by citing the results of many different studies
and scientific experiments from the field of psychology. The approach to supporting others presented at the beginning leads to the following conclusions: relationships with people capitalize, meaning it's a kind of "emotional bank account” where we deposit our supply of chocolate.
You need to deposit it regularly and remember to keep the chocolate from getting cold; it's up to us
what level of chocolate we leave the other person with; by supporting others I feel better myself – this way I take care of my own chocolate level in the cup and finally not using
the opportunity to pour someone chocolate is simply wasting an opportunity.

The author refers to the results of repeatedly conducted studies that suggest what the minimum proportion of "strokes" (positive interactions, support)
should be in relation to messages that could undermine self-esteem (negative interactions, unconstructive criticism). It turns out that in private life it should be a minimum of five positive interactions to one negative, and in professional life a minimum of three to one.
Interestingly, people feel that messages are equal not when they actually are equal.
A negative message has much greater destructive power than a positive one has constructive power. Let's remember: for every three cases of gratitude, happiness, pride, satisfaction
and fulfillment – one case of anger, guilt and embarrassment (if it's actually needed
and justified).

What does this give?
It turns out that the consequences of such action have a very positive impact not only on our surroundings, but also on ourselves. If you want to find out what this mysterious science of strokeology is, how it works and how you can learn it, I highly encourage you to read Miłosz Brzeziński's book.
It won't be wasted time! It will be an investment.